How To Get Over Your EX

ImageImagePerhaps nothing is quite as painful as getting over your 1st love.this is the person who taught you how to fall in love,you thought you’d spend the rest of you lives together.now that its over you are scared that you will never find some1 to replace them or maybe you are just afraid you will not be as happy with someone else as them.
it hurts even more when you know or see them with someone else.there’s no miracle cure but there are tips to hasten this.

1.REALIZE THAT YOU HAVE TO REACH A POINT OF WANTING TO GET OVER YOUR EX               at first it will hurt so much that you wont feel able to even start to get over this person and you might even harbor a deep belief that both of you will eventually get back together.this internal hoping and avoidance may last quite a while but eventually you will realize that you actually don’t want to get back with this person.after realizing this you can move on.

2.CUT OFF ALL COMMUNICATION WITH YOUR EX
   harsh but its the only thing that works.you probably feel like you’re losing the best friend you ever had,the only person who truly understood you.it might hurt at 1st but it will get better.you cannot be friends while you are attempting to get over each other

3.DO NOT HOOK UP WITH YOUR EX AT ALL
    do not have sex with them,if you do that you will get back to square one and all the work will be wasted,remember,out of sight out of mind works.

4.WHEN THE GOING GETS TOUGH RECALL WHY THE TWO OF YOU BROKE UP
   remember what you hated about your ex and what you could never agree on.in a time of heartbreak you may tend to only remember only what you loved about your ex and keep playing over your happiest memories together.yet you tend to forget the irritating habits,letdowns,doubts and letdowns that led to the breakup.don’t justify their mistakes,realize you can find a better person without those mistakes.

5.REALIZE JUST BECAUSE THE RELATIONSHIP IS OVER DOESN’T MEAN YOU CANT FIND LOVE AGAIN many people will remember how hard it was to get over them but will also admit that they found greater loves in their lifetime.

6.TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.
   you may find t hard to sleep or go bk to sleep when you get up and this feels like the loneliest time ever,go for long walks or physical activities during the day to make sure you are exhausted when going to bed.

7.DON’T TRY TO GET THROUGH THIS ALONE.
Friends will offer comfort,support and sometimes good advice.if you forgot about them while you were dating ask them for forgiveness.true friends will forgive you.talk to them more and you will find the more you talk the less you mind is on your ex.make the world larger and they will become less important.

8.DON’T ASK HOW YOUR EX IS OR IF THEY HAVE BEEN SEEN AROUND
you don’t know and don’t want to know or care about how they are

9.BE OPEN AND HONEST ABOUT HOW YOU ARE FEELING
don’t try to pretend you are okay.don’t be sad all the time.talk to people  instead of holding it in,remember there are other people who care about you even if it doesn’t feel that way.

10.ALLOW YOURSELF TO CRY IF YOU WANT TO. crying helps release emotions after this you will feel much better,make sure you have a good time after,you will be happier.

11.USE BREAKUPS TO BECOME THE PERSON YOU ALWAYS WANTED TO BE  take on  a goal like learning new things eg language or skill

12.AVOID EQUIPPING YOURSELF TO WALLOW.  don’t fill your phone or iPod with the saddest music you can think of,sad songs make you think about what went wrong.listen to better music.music helps you heal.

13.DO ANYTHING THAT MAKES YOU FEEL DESIRABLE AND CONFIDENT AGAIN.get a haircut,buy new clothes dress up,go out etc

ALWAYS REMEMBER;you are better off without them because nobody is worth your tears at all.
-with maturity,your capacity for love grows.be grateful for the experience of your 1st love
-you have the power of choice,you can let this loss hold you back or learn from it an move on a wiser more compassionate grown up person
-no relationship is ever a mistake if you can get something out of it.

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